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Dr. Jay Michaelson

Mar 23, 2016 52m 54s 34 insights
<p>Dr. Jay Michaelson is a lawyer, a rabbi, a legal/religion columnist for The Daily Beast, an LGBT activist, a professor, and an author of six books. Yet despite his staggering number of day jobs, Michaelson has also found time to intensively practice meditation. In fact, add another job to the resume: He's also a meditation teacher. And not only does he practice and teach meditation, he says he's had experiences of enlightenment, or "awakening."</p>
Actionable Insights

1. Embrace Full Human Experience

Embrace the full range of human experience, including pain and sorrow, as an integral part of being alive, rather than trying to avoid difficult emotions. This approach allows for authentic relationships and profound engagement with life.

2. Coexist with Difficult Feelings

Practice being present with difficult emotions without being overwhelmed or taken over by them, allowing you to settle back and observe them with a slightly different relationship. This enables you to navigate challenges without being consumed by them.

3. Be the Sky, Not the Storm

Adopt a perspective where you are the spacious awareness (the sky) rather than identifying with the transient emotions and experiences (the storm). This allows you to witness joys and sorrows profoundly, like seasons of the year.

4. Don’t Take Ego Seriously

Recognize that the ego, which constantly seeks to run the show and achieve desires, is often the least competent part of the mind and can cause significant suffering. Learn not to take its demands and narratives too seriously.

5. Challenge Inadequacy Voice

When the inner voice of inadequacy arises, acknowledge its presence (‘oh, there’s that voice’) but avoid believing it or letting it dictate your self-worth. This helps to loosen its grip and reduce self-inflicted suffering.

6. Work on Internal Greed, Hatred

Actively work on your internal patterns of greed, hatred, and delusion, as this personal transformation can lead to a safer and less destructive world on a macro level. This is a ’think globally, act locally’ approach to societal improvement.

7. Cultivate Emotional Authenticity

Strive for authenticity in your emotional expression and relationships, as this enables deeper connection and understanding with others. Being true to your feelings fosters genuine human connection.

8. Train Mind to Suffer Less

Engage in Dharma traditions to train your mind to suffer less by holding on less and grabbing less at experiences and desires. This practice focuses on reducing attachment as a path to liberation.

9. Seek Lasting Mind Transformation

Understand that the true point of deep meditation practice is not temporary peak experiences but lasting transformation in the mind, leading to stages of greater happiness, justice, and compassion. Focus on these enduring changes rather than fleeting states.

10. Practice Over Theory

Recognize that understanding meditation is like a cookbook; you must actively ‘do it’ and engage in the practice to truly ’taste the dish’ and gain intuitive knowledge, rather than just reading about it. Visceral experience is key to genuine insight.

11. Move to Visceral Knowledge

Aim to shift your understanding from mere intellectual agreement to a visceral, intuitive ‘gut feeling’ about concepts like ’not-self’ or ‘cause and effect.’ This deeper knowing is the true point of practice.

12. Develop Concentrated Mind

Practice concentration to quiet the mind’s noise, enabling vivid experiences of mundane things and allowing you to perceive the wonder in every ordinary moment. This capacity is developed, not left to chance.

13. Observe Causes of Actions

Analyze the numerous factors and conditions that lead to your actions, rather than attributing them solely to a singular ‘self.’ This practice helps to intuitively understand the concept of ’not-self’ and loosen its delusion.

14. Observe Desires Without Acting

Practice observing desires, such as the urge to buy something, and recognize that you don’t always need to act on them. Acknowledge the desire and then move on, rather than being compelled by it.

15. Question Fear-Based Reactions

When fear arises in response to external events, observe it and question whether you need to listen to that fear or act on it immediately. This allows for a more considered and less reactive response.

16. Set Right Intention

Clearly establish your intention for your meditation practice, as having this ‘right intention’ is a fundamental and significant part of the path towards awakening.

17. Cultivate Noble Friends

Actively seek out and engage in conversations with ’noble friends’ – experienced practitioners who have done the work – to gain support, inspiration, and insights from their lived experience.

18. Seek a Competent Teacher

For those pursuing serious, deep meditation, find a competent teacher who can guide you through difficult stages and provide reassurance, preventing potential misinterpretations or distress.

19. Cultivate Personal Resilience

Develop personal resilience to navigate the challenging and sometimes uncomfortable phases of deep meditation practice. This inner strength is crucial for enduring the ‘dark night’ stages.

20. Normalize Difficult Stages

Understand that difficult experiences, often called ‘dukkha nyanas’ or ‘dark night,’ are a recognized and normal part of intensive practice, not a sign of a nervous breakdown. A good teacher can confirm this.

21. View Enlightenment as Slope

Understand that enlightenment or liberation is a gradual process, like a slope from the shallow to the deep end of a pool, with various stages, rather than an all-or-nothing, instantaneous jump.

22. Demystify Nirvana Experience

Approach nirvana not as a mystical, ultimate experience, but as a state of letting go, an ’extinguishing’ of clinging and craving. It is accessible with enough practice and can be demystified.

23. Truly Let Go of Liberation

Paradoxically, to achieve deeper liberation, you must genuinely let go of the desire for it, reaching a point where you truly don’t care if it happens. This non-seeking allows it to arise.

24. Commit to Intensive Practice

Recognize that achieving deeper states of liberation often requires a significant time commitment to intensive practice, similar to the dedication required to become a highly skilled athlete or musician.

25. Consider Unplugging for Deep Practice

If circumstances allow, consider taking extended periods to ‘unplug’ from daily life and engage in silent retreats for intensive practice, as this can facilitate deeper progress.

26. Understand Self as Emergent

Intellectually and viscerally grasp that the ‘self’ is an emergent property of the brain, a helpful process rather than a fixed reality, which helps loosen the delusion of a solid, independent self.

27. Use Meditation for Stress Reduction

Engage in meditation practice to alleviate suffering, reduce stress, and achieve incremental improvements in happiness and well-being. This is a common and effective entry point for many.

28. Focus on Practical Benefits

Utilize meditation for practical benefits in daily life, such as being happier, less angry with a spouse, or more effective with workmates, even if not pursuing ‘big enlightenment.’

29. Secular Mindfulness as Gateway

If interested in deeper contemplative practices, start with secular mindfulness as a ‘gateway drug’ to explore its benefits before potentially delving into more intensive paths.

30. Prepare for Deep Practice Difficulties

Be aware that ‘deep end’ meditation involves confronting difficult aspects of oneself and one’s mind, which can be challenging but is part of the transformative process.

31. Seek Inspiration from Advanced

Look to advanced practitioners who exhibit qualities like being ‘unstuck’ and grasping less, as their examples can inspire and guide your own practice.

32. Practice Letting Go of Formations

Intuitively learn that it’s possible to let go of ‘all formations’—everything you perceive and think—to ‘unplug’ from constant mental clinging.

33. Embrace Contemplative Practice

Engage in any form of contemplative practice (meditation, prayer, yoga) to personally experience its benefits, which can foster wisdom and compassion and have a real impact on the world.

34. Avoid Meditation for Awesome Experiences

Do not start meditation solely with the goal of having ‘awesome experiences,’ as this is considered a ‘bad reason’ and can lead to disappointment or misdirection from the true purpose of practice.