When you notice thoughts arising to engage in useless or harmful speech, remember “Sampapalapa,” pause, and inquire into the underlying need or “itch” you are trying to scratch, recognizing it’s often a desire for attention.
When interpreting others’ actions or intentions, consider applying the “Most Generous Interpretation” (MGI) to challenge your habitual thought patterns, even if you don’t believe everyone always deserves it.
Before engaging in potentially harmful speech, ask yourself: “Is this true? Am I sure?” to verify the accuracy and intent of your statements.
When sharing personal vulnerabilities, especially publicly, aim to discuss issues you have already processed and worked through (“scars”), rather than active, unresolved struggles (“wounds”).
It’s acceptable to discuss active, “bleeding wounds” with trusted individuals in your personal life, but be more selective and cautious when sharing such vulnerabilities in public settings.
To deepen relationships, take a risk by sharing something vulnerable with individuals who fall into the “15% range”—people you don’t fully know but suspect might be safe and receptive.
If guided meditations are helpful for you, continue using them, as they are a valid and beneficial form of practice, and you should not feel like you are “cheating.”
Accept that learning the art of appropriate vulnerability is a skill that will likely involve making mistakes along the way.