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Conquer Your Money Neuroses | Lewis Howes

May 7, 2025 1h 19m 12 insights
<p dir="ltr">Upgrade your relationship to your wallet.</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://lewishowes.com/">Lewis Howes</a> is the host of the <a href="https://lewishowes.com/podcast/">School of Greatness podcast</a>. He has written several bestselling books. His newest is called <a href="https://info.lewishowes.com/money-book">Make Money Easy: Your Path to Peace, Freedom, and Financial Abundance</a>. </p> <p><strong><br /> <br /></strong></p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr">Overcoming setbacks</li> <li dir="ltr">The evolution of podcasting</li> <li dir="ltr">Developing a personal mission to help you persist through challenges </li> <li dir="ltr">Habits and mindset shifts to make money easier</li> <li dir="ltr">Figuring out your money story and money style…and how this can lead to a money strategy </li> <li dir="ltr">How to continually evolve your relationship to money </li> <li dir="ltr">How to handle money in romantic relationships </li> <li dir="ltr">The art of clearing unnecessary things off your plate so you can grow</li> <li dir="ltr">The value of generosity</li> </ul> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr">Related Episodes:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr"><a href="https://www.danharris.com/p/lewis-howes-former-pro-athlete-on-10c?utm_source=publication-search"> Lewis Howes, Former Pro-Athlete on Removing 'Mask of Masculinity'</a></li> <li dir="ltr"><a href="https://www.danharris.com/p/what-is-holding-you-back-from-greatness-6dd?utm_source=publication-search"> What Is Holding You Back From Greatness? | Lewis Howes</a><strong><br /></strong></li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Sign up for Dan's newsletter <a href="http://www.danharris.com">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href="https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href="https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Ten Percent Happier online <a href="https://bit.ly/46TZglY">bookstore</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href="https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Our favorite playlists on: <a href="https://spoti.fi/3Qa8kMT">Anxiety</a>, <a href="https://spoti.fi/3MjtMxF">Sleep</a>, <a href="https://spoti.fi/3QvyA5J">Relationships</a>, <a href="https://spoti.fi/3QxZASc">Most Popular Episodes</a></p> <p> </p>
Actionable Insights

1. Embrace a North Star Mission

Develop a clear, exciting personal mission that is bigger than yourself to serve as a “North Star” and motivate you to persist through inevitable challenges and setbacks. This mission provides a fundamental reason to continue when things get tough, preventing you from losing the will to continue.

2. Cultivate Generosity Mindset

Be a generous giver of your time, energy, resourcefulness, love, presence, and curiosity, especially when you feel you have little to offer financially. This mindset attracts opportunities and positive returns, as being generous with your spirit amplifies who you are and allows more to flow into your life.

3. Heal Your Money Story

Reflect on your past experiences and “money wounds” by writing them down to understand how they affect your current relationship with money. Dissecting your money story helps you become aware of underlying fears and reactions, allowing you to mend your relationship with money and reduce stress.

4. Practice Pre-Marriage Therapy

Engage in therapy or courageous conversations early in a committed relationship, even before engagement, to discuss sensitive topics like money, kids, and religion. This proactive approach creates safety, alignment, and agreements, preventing future conflicts and suffering that often arise from unaddressed expectations.

5. Establish Relationship Agreements

Create clear agreements and boundaries within your relationships to prevent unnecessary stress and conflict. By defining expectations and having a mediator (like a therapist) for disagreements, you can foster an environment of peace and harmony.

6. Continuously Re-evaluate Money Mindset

Regularly assess and adjust your thinking and emotional connection to money, as your mindset will shift with different seasons of life and financial growth. This ongoing re-evaluation helps you maintain an abundant perspective and avoid scarcity, regardless of your current financial level.

7. Identify & Monetize Unique Skills

Evaluate your individual assets and inner skills, including those you might take for granted or perceive as unconventional, to identify potential financial opportunities. Ask others what they think you’re good at, as turning perceived liabilities into strengths can lead to unexpected wealth creation.

8. Delegate for Mobility & Growth

Systematically identify and outsource, delegate, or eliminate tasks that consume your time and energy but don’t require your unique skills. This “mobility habit” frees you up to elevate your core assets, develop new skills, and break through to new levels of financial and personal growth.

9. Embrace Continuous Mastery

Approach mastery as an ongoing journey of learning and re-evaluation, rather than a fixed destination, especially in areas like financial growth. Continuously revisit your mindset, habits, and strategies, seeking new knowledge and mentorship to break through new ceilings.

10. Reinterpret Neutral Events

Recognize that every event is neutral, and it’s your interpretation that gives it emotional energy. When facing difficult experiences, allow for sadness and grief, but then choose to reinterpret the event in your favor to heal, realign your vision, and regain inner peace.

11. Conquer Self-Doubt

Actively work to overcome self-doubt, as it is a “killer of dreams” that can sabotage your potential regardless of talent or credentials. Cultivate belief in yourself with humility and confidence to unlock your capabilities and achieve your goals.

12. View Life as a Team Sport

Approach life, including your career and personal growth, as a team sport, actively evaluating and managing your support system. Understand that team members (relationships) may come and go, and consciously choose who is on your “starting five” to enhance enjoyment and support.