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Can You Really Trust Your Gut? | Amber Tamblyn

Jan 30, 2023 1h 5m 20 insights
<p><em>New episodes come out every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday for free, with 1-week early access for Wondery+ subscribers.</em></p> <p><em>---</em></p> <p><br /></p> <p>There may be a temptation in some circles to dismiss intuition as witchy, folkloric, or unscientific but there's actually a ton of science around this. Our guest, author, actress and director, Amber Tamblyn will guide us through this. Tamblyn argues that intuition is a trainable skill but that this south-of-the-neck intelligence is often obscured by being too stuck in our heads and out of touch with our bodies. </p> <p><br /></p> <p>Tamblyn has been nominated for Emmy®, Golden Globe, and Independent Spirit Awards. Her work in television spans over two decades including starring roles on <em>House M.D</em>., and <em>Two and a Half Men</em>. On the big screen, she starred in movies such as <em>The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants</em> and <em>127 Hours</em>. She's written seven books, including her latest, which is called <a href="https://www.indiebound.org/book/9780778333333" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>Listening in the Dark: Women Reclaiming the Power of Intuition</em></a>. </p> <p><br /></p> <p>In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li>How she defines intuition, and the role it plays as a bridge between the conscious and unconscious parts of our minds</li> <li>Why we are conditioned to validate rational intelligence over intuitive intelligence  </li> <li>The gut/brain connection, and why the enteric nervous system is known as the "second brain"</li> <li>Practical tips for getting better at listening to our bodies</li> <li>The role of meditation in boosting intuition</li> <li>The scientific research that points towards the importance of having a relationship with nature, and how this can improve our intuition</li> <li>The relationship between intuition and creativity</li> <li>How we should think about dream life</li> <li>What to do when you're not sure whether you should trust your gut</li> <li>How to recognize the difference between anxiety and intuition</li> <li>And why our society has downplayed the importance of intuition, which has been a tool used against women and men</li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href="https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/amber-tamblyn-555" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/amber-tamblyn-555</a></p>
Actionable Insights

1. Use the “Roadmap Revealed” Process

To make a difficult decision, find a quiet place, ask yourself the question, and observe what comes up first without reacting; then, imagine two parts of yourself (one scared, one supportive) to process the fear, allowing you to sit with potential answers.

2. Practice Gradual Intuition Trust

Start building your intuitive muscle by asking yourself hard questions and observing your body’s initial response without immediate reaction, gradually pushing past the fear that prevents you from listening to your body’s truth.

3. Set Boundaries for the “Head Voice”

Recognize that your conscious mind’s ‘head voice’ (rambling, paranoid, anxious thoughts) needs boundaries, like an unruly toddler, to prevent it from controlling everything and overshadowing the valuable information from your gut intuition.

4. Cultivate Authentic Gut Relationship

Understand that trusting your gut is a practice, not an immediate action; dedicate time and effort to develop an authentic relationship with your intuition, as it can be wrong if not properly cultivated over time.

5. Meditate for Intuitive Connection

Practice meditation and sitting in silence to quiet verbal thoughts and access feelings without language, allowing for a deeper connection with your intuitive process and gut feelings.

6. Connect with Nature Actively

Engage in an active practice of being physically in nature, such as finding a ‘sit spot’ to visit daily and putting your feet in the dirt, to foster healing and strengthen the body’s connection to the natural world.

7. Prioritize Body Awareness

Dedicate a fraction of the time you spend thinking about food choices to actively asking, ‘What is my body telling me right now?’ to cultivate a deeper respect and understanding of its signals.

8. Consult Community for Gut Checks

If you can’t distinguish between anxiety and intuition, or if you distrust your gut instincts, rely on your trusted community (friends, family, partners) as a ‘shield’ or ‘safety net’ to help you process and validate your feelings.

9. Share Intuitive Insights

Recognize that intuition is a ’team sport’; share your intuitive insights and boundaries with people you love, allowing them to provide support, accountability, and a different perspective when you are blinded by fear or grief.

10. Take Dreams Seriously

Pay attention to your dream life, especially recurring dreams or specific symbols, as they can serve as tools from your unconscious mind to help you intuit meaning, resolve past traumas, and better understand your intuition.

11. Keep a Dream Diary

Maintain a diligent diary of your dreams, especially recurring ones, to track patterns and visuals that your subconscious mind might be using to lead you towards resolving unresolved issues or understanding past traumatic events.

12. Embrace Existential Rebirth

If you feel a deep, intuitive pull towards an ’existential death’ of your current self or life path, lean into that feeling as a catalyst for rebirth and transformation into a more authentic, multifaceted identity.

13. Allow Intuition to Guide Creativity

When undertaking a creative project, allow an intuitive, almost uncontrollable urge to guide your process, even if the ultimate outcome or purpose isn’t immediately clear, as it can lead to profound personal and career transformation.

14. Act on Intuitive Truths

After sitting with an intuitive truth and processing the fear, recognize that you have choices; acting on something that terrifies you but your body indicates is true can be life-changing, even if not immediately.

15. Trust Retrospective Intuition

When reflecting on past experiences, acknowledge and label physical sensations as intuitive moments, even if you didn’t act on them at the time, to build trust in your body’s signals for future decisions.

16. Engage in Connecting Activities

Foster connection to your body and others by engaging in simple activities like sitting around a fire with friends or strangers, and talking to people you don’t know, which helps to counter feelings of numbness and separation.

17. Shock Nervous System with Cold

Practice cold plunging or other forms of cold exposure to shock your central nervous system back into feeling, which is beneficial for health and reconnecting with your body’s instincts.

18. Embrace Play and Service

Incorporate play and service to others into your life as ways to get out of your head and connect more deeply with your body and intuition.

19. Holistic Healing Approach

If facing a major ailment, consider a holistic approach that includes retraining your body’s story of illness, adjusting diet (cutting/adding specific things), using herbs and natural remedies, and integrating Western medicine.

20. Train to Teach Mindfulness

If interested in sharing mindfulness with young people, consider enrolling in IBME’s comprehensive year-long teacher training program to gain confidence as a mindfulness educator and make a difference.