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Can You Change Your Relationship With Fear? | Dr. Abigail Marsh

Sep 30, 2020 51m 12s 20 insights
<p>There's no shortage of fear these days -- the virus, the climate, racial injustice, political tumult… I could go on. But can you change the way your brain reacts to fear? Moreover, can you train courage? Abigail Marsh says yes; overcoming fear is a trainable skill. She's an Associate Professor in the Department of Psychology and the Interdisciplinary Neuroscience Program at Georgetown University. She's also the author of the book Fear Factor: How One Emotion Connects Altruists, Psychopaths, and Everyone In-Between. This is a classic TPH podcast conversation: an ace scientist whose area of expertise illuminates key aspects of the human condition. Enjoy. Where to find Dr. Abigail Marsh online: Website: http://www.abigailmarsh.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/aa_marsh Book Mentioned: Fear Factor: How One Emotion Connects Altruists, Psychopaths, and Everyone In-Between by Abigail Marsh: https://bookshop.org/books/the-fear-factor-how-one-emotion-connects-altruists-psychopaths-and-everyone-in-between/9781541697195 We care deeply about supporting you in your meditation practice, and feel that providing you with high quality teachers is one of the best ways to do that. Customers of the Ten Percent Happier app say they stick around specifically for the range of teachers, and the deep wisdom they impart, to help them deepen their practice. For anyone new to the app, we've got a special discount just for you. If you're an existing subscriber, we thank you for your support. To claim your discount, visit tenpercent.com/reward  We would appreciate it if you can take a few minutes to help us out by answering a survey. The team here is always looking for ways to improve. Please go to www.tenpercent.com/survey. Thank you. Other Resources Mentioned: The Goldfinch by Donna Tartt: https://bookshop.org/books/the-goldfinch/9780316055420 Lovingkindness: The Revolutionary Art of Happiness by Sharon Salzberg: https://bookshop.org/books/lovingkindness-the-revolutionary-art-of-happiness/9781611808209 The Overstory by Richard Powers: https://bookshop.org/books/the-overstory/9780393356687 Clara Barton: https://www.redcross.org/about-us/who-we-are/history/clara-barton.html  Additional Resources: Ten Percent Happier Live: https://tenpercent.com/live Coronavirus Sanity Guide: https://www.tenpercent.com/coronavirussanityguide Free App access for Frontline Workers: https://tenpercent.com/care Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/dr-abigail-marsh-287</p>
Actionable Insights

1. Find and Live Your Purpose

Cultivate and pursue a strong sense of purpose, as it is essential for high well-being and is the most effective way to overcome fears about the world’s dangers.

2. Cultivate Stronger Motivation

To overcome fear, cultivate a stronger motivation towards a goal or the welfare of others, making it more important than the risks that might otherwise deter you.

3. Engage in Real-World Help

Overcome fears and improve well-being by taking action to help others in need and pouring yourself into meaningful causes, ideally by engaging in real-world activities rather than just online.

4. Act Despite Groundless Fear

If an objective assessment indicates that something you fear is not likely to actually hurt you, proceed with the action anyway to prevent the fear from solidifying into an anxiety disorder.

5. Avoid Fear Avoidance

Do not avoid things that scare you, as avoidance teaches your brain to maintain the fear and can lead to anxiety disorders, solidifying the fear.

6. Practice Humility, Equal Worth

Avoid thinking of yourself as more special or better than others; this humble perspective, believing everyone has comparable worth, can make you more willing to act altruistically.

7. Meditate for Compassion

Engage in compassion or loving-kindness meditation to train yourself to experience feelings of well-wishes and beneficence towards others, which can promote altruism and a sense of embeddedness in a larger whole.

8. Help Others, Stop Rumination

To overcome personal distress or depression, shift focus from self-rumination to helping others, as this action-oriented approach can break negative thought patterns and improve well-being.

9. Cultivate Gratitude and Humility

Keep a gratitude journal or regularly reflect on things you’re grateful for, as this practice enhances well-being and increases humility by acknowledging external sources of fortune.

10. Read for Empathy

Read literary fiction or any material that allows you to experience another person’s internal state, as this practice can significantly enhance your empathic capacities by forcing you to share their experience.

11. Seek Awe in Nature

Spend time in nature, especially experiencing awe from things like a night sky or mountains, to cultivate a sense of a ‘small self’ embedded in a larger universe, promoting humility.

12. Broaden Compassion to All

Practice extending feelings of compassion and well-wishes not only to loved ones but also to distant people, those you find difficult, and even yourself, to broaden your altruistic capacity.

13. Embrace Self-Compassion

Cultivate compassion for yourself, including your foibles, rather than succumbing to guilt, shame, or self-criticism, as this is important for fostering altruism.

14. Diversify Social Experiences

Have positive social experiences with a diverse array of people to expand your abstract social network, making you more likely to care about the welfare of strangers you encounter.

15. Believe in Others’ Goodness

Foster belief in others’ goodness by seeking out social experiences that reinforce the idea that people are generally good, deserving of help, and willing to assist.

16. Actively Help Others

To increase compassion, actively engage in helping others, as this direct experience can foster greater empathy and understanding of suffering.

17. Question Fear’s Reality

Appreciate fear’s utility but remember that feelings are not always truth; question if what you fear is genuinely as dangerous as it seems, as it’s possible to be afraid of something not truly dangerous.

18. Move Diversely in Real World

Increase the diversity of your physical movements and activities in the real world daily, as this has been linked to higher well-being and prevents a ’tailspin’ from excessive computer use.

19. Practice Reasonable Precautions

Take reasonable precautions, such as wearing masks, which are a small cost for a big benefit, and prioritize spending time outside with others, as this reduces risk.

20. Train Courage, Overcome Fear

Recognize that overcoming fear is a trainable skill, implying that with effort and specific practices, one can alter their brain’s reaction to fear and cultivate courage.