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Ben Feder, Making Every Day a Sabbatical

Dec 26, 2018 48m 28s 11 insights
Ben Feder was the CEO of a tremendously successful company, but it was coming at great personal cost. Returning home from his worldwide business travels, he greeted his family, only to realize how disconnected he felt from them. For years he had sacrificed time with his family to focus on his work, but at this moment he decided something needed to change. He embarked on a year-long sabbatical, in a very big way. He gave up his job, pulled his kids out of school and moved his family from New York to Bali. He explains how that journey changed all of their lives. Have a question for Dan? Leave us a voicemail at 646-883-8326. The Plug Zone Website: https://benfederauthor.com/ Author: Take Off Your Shoes https://benfederauthor.com/product/take-off-your-shoes Twitter: @BenFederAuthor Facebook: @BenFederAuthor
Actionable Insights

1. Scrutinize Sabbatical Excuses

Take a hard look at the stories you tell yourself about why you can’t make a significant life change like a sabbatical, as your inner opposition may fall apart under close scrutiny, making such changes more doable than perceived.

2. Cultivate a “Sabbatical Mindset”

Organize your life, day, family, and time to center yourself, breathe, and ground yourself, allowing you to experience a “sabbatical in your mind” without needing to physically escape. This involves finding your “holy ground” in your current environment.

3. Plan for Future Sabbatical

If you desire a sabbatical but can’t take one immediately, create a plan for 1, 3, or 5 years out and save money by making small sacrifices, such as not going to the movies, to fund that amazing experience.

4. Embrace Meditation, Yoga, Art

Incorporate practices like meditation, yoga (focused on breath), and art (like painting or drawing) into your daily life as centering activities to discover your “holy ground” and foster a lighter, more measured approach to life.

5. Learn to “See” Through Art

Engage in artistic exercises, such as drawing by turning the image upside down and focusing on lines and angles, to quiet the left brain and activate the right brain, which can lead to learning new skills and experiencing a “flow” state where mind chatter, time, and space fall away.

6. Process Intense Emotions Mindfully

When intense emotions like rage arise during meditation or yoga, experience them as fully as possible by taking them in, focusing attention, and breathing through them, understanding that all emotions eventually melt away.

7. Meditation as a Superpower

View meditation as a “superpower” or tool that enhances effectiveness, allows for more achievement with a smile, and helps maintain an edge by enabling you to slow things down mentally and respond in a measured way rather than just reacting.

8. Mentor on Inner Voice

When mentoring younger colleagues, address their baseline anxiety and “deluded” states by asking about “that voice inside your head” and working on ways to quiet it, recognizing it as a universal human experience.

9. Stick to Breath Meditation

If you find it difficult to switch from breath-focused meditation to other forms like open awareness or sound, don’t get hung up on it; the breath can be a complete and effective focus for your entire meditation practice.

10. Meditate with a Cold

If you have a cold and your nose is stuffy, shift your meditation focus from the breath through the nostrils to the abdomen; alternatively, use this time to explore other forms of meditation like open awareness, sound, or loving kindness.

11. Address Involuntary Movement

If you experience involuntary movement during seated meditation, recognize it as normal, but also observe if you are subtly (voluntarily) feeding the movement and try to slow that down, while accepting what truly is involuntary.