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Are You Willing to Challenge Your Own Tribe? | Robert Wright

Jan 12, 2022 54m 47s 9 insights
<p>Why, from an evolutionary perspective, is it so terrifying for many of us to contemplate challenging our own tribe? How comfortable would you be hopping on social media and questioning the deeply held convictions of your closest friends and colleagues? Even if you don't want to be public about it, are there ways to have more empathy for somebody whose views are different from yours? Robert Wright believes the future of civilization hinges on our ability to get better at this. </p> <p><br /></p> <p>Robert Wright is the author of the bestselling book <a href="https://bookshop.org/books/why-buddhism-is-true-the-science-and-philosophy-of-meditation-and-enlightenment/9781439195468" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>Why Buddhism Is True</em></a>. He also writes the <a href="https://nonzero.org/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Nonzero Newsletter</a>, is host of <a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-wright-show/id505824847" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">The Wright Show</a> podcast, and his newest mission is something he calls the <a href="https://nonzero.org/post/apocalypse-aversion-project" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Apocalypse Aversion Project</a>. This episode explores: how mindfulness meditation can help us overcome our biases; how we are often manipulated by natural selection; the concepts of confirmation bias and attribution error; the pain and joy of pushing back against the conventional wisdom of your own tribe; the difference between cognitive and emotional empathy; why Robert is a big believer in talking to people with whom he disagrees; and the importance of making friendships across ideological lines. </p> <p><br /></p> <p>This episode is the second in our weeklong series about bias. If you missed Monday's episode with the excellent journalist Jessica Nordell, you can listen <a href="https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/jessica-nordell-410" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">here</a>. </p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href="https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/bob-wright-411" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/robert-wright-411</a></p>
Actionable Insights

1. Cultivate Awareness to Overcome Biases

Practice mindfulness meditation to become aware of the feelings (affection or hostility) that drive cognitive biases like confirmation bias, allowing you to loosen their grip and see the world more clearly. This awareness is crucial for making wiser decisions, being a better citizen, and ultimately leading to greater happiness and reduced suffering.

2. Develop Cognitive Empathy for Understanding

Actively work to understand the perspectives of others, especially those with whom you disagree or feel hostile towards, without necessarily agreeing with or sympathizing with them. This understanding, which mindfulness can facilitate by abating hostility, is a critical strength for navigating complex social and ideological landscapes.

3. Courageously Question Your Tribe’s Views

Develop the courage to push back against your ideological group when they uncritically embrace views, take uncharitable attitudes, or overgeneralize about ’the other side.’ Mindfulness can help overcome the fear of disapproval from your peers, enabling you to speak out for more constructive dialogue.

4. Diversify Your Information Sources

Actively consume news and media from outlets that process events differently from your own ideological perspective. This practice helps you understand how ’the other side’ thinks, providing valuable insight into their mindset and avoiding the reinforcement of your own biases.

5. Build Cross-Ideological Friendships

Intentionally form friendships with people who hold different political or ideological views. Face-to-face conversation with those you disagree with has a civilizing effect, making it harder to demonize them and fostering mutual understanding and potential influence.

6. Recognize Attribution Error Bias

Be mindful of the fundamental attribution error, where you tend to attribute negative actions of ’enemies’ to their character and positive actions of ‘friends’ to their character, while excusing negative actions of friends by circumstance. Consciously consider situational factors when judging others’ behavior, especially those you dislike.

7. Engage Social Media Strategically

Avoid the urge to uncritically retweet content that demonizes ’the other tribe’ or confirms your existing biases, as this fuels an unhealthy incentive structure. Instead, notice the feelings driving these impulses, and consider disengaging temporarily or returning later to respond thoughtfully, rather than reactively.

8. Adapt Your Meditation Practice

Regularly reassess and adapt your meditation practice, as what works for a while may change. Lower expectations, experiment with different timings (e.g., evening sessions), or explore new techniques like intermittent awareness throughout the day, rather than adhering dogmatically to one path.

9. Cultivate Loving Kindness Meditation

Engage in loving kindness meditation, starting by sending good wishes to an ’easy person’ (like a child or pet) to build concentration and positive feelings. Once the ’engine is revved,’ gently include yourself in the practice, and then extend it to others, including those you find challenging, to foster compassion and a kinder relationship with yourself.