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Are You Overcomplicating Your Life? | Kaira Jewel Lingo

Aug 3, 2025 26m 21s 21 insights
<p dir="ltr">We're in the midst of an exciting evolution of the overall 10% Happier project. In our quest to make this podcast more actionable – to help you operationalize all the game-changing ideas you encounter on this pod – we're now offering guided meditations to accompany each full episode of the show, available to paid subscribers at <a href="http://danharris.com/">DanHarris.com</a>. For the month of August, those meditations will come from <a href="https://www.kairajewel.com/">Kaira Jewel Lingo</a>, a Buddhist teacher who spent 15 years as a monastic in the Plum Village tradition.</p> <p dir="ltr">In this bonus episode, you'll hear our head of content, DJ Cashmere, in conversation with Kaira Jewel, sharing some of her fascinating backstory. From a communal Christian community in Chicago, to a Zen monastery in the south of France, to making her life as an independent teacher in New York, you'll hear how the thread of "voluntary simplicity" runs through all of it. </p> <p dir="ltr">Related Episodes:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr"> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://www.danharris.com/p/how-to-keep-your-relationships-on-133?utm_source=publication-search"> How To Keep Your Relationships On the Rails | Kaira Jewel Lingo</a></p> </li> <li dir="ltr"> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://www.danharris.com/p/a-buddhist-recipe-for-handling-turmoil-73e?r=4o5o&amp;utm_campaign=post&amp;utm_medium=web&amp;showWelcomeOnShare=false"> A Buddhist Recipe for Handling Turmoil | Kaira Jewel Lingo</a></p> </li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Get ready for another Meditation Party at Omega Institute! This in-person workshop brings together Dan with his friends and meditation teachers, Sebene Selassie, Jeff Warren, and for the first time, Ofosu Jones-Quartey. The event runs October 24th-26th. Sign up and learn more <a href="http://eomega.org/workshops/meditation-party-2025">here</a>!<br /> <br /></p> <p dir="ltr">Join Dan's online community <a href="http://www.danharris.com/">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href="https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href="https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href="https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href="https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p> <p> </p>
Actionable Insights

1. Normalize Modern Living Difficulty

Acknowledge that modern society is poorly structured for optimal well-being, making it inherently difficult to meet needs, which helps depersonalize struggles and reduce self-blame.

2. Prioritize Deep Human Connection

Focus on fostering deep connections and a sense of belonging with others to cultivate serotonin-driven, fulfilling happiness, rather than chasing quick, ultimately unsatisfying highs from external accumulation.

3. Form Anti-Exploitation Resistance Pockets

Gather with others to form ‘pockets of resistance’ against the exploitation of the attention economy, engaging in deep ontological explorations about human purpose and challenging societal norms.

4. Undertake Ontological Explorations

Engage in deep ontological explorations, asking fundamental questions about human existence and purpose, to gain clarity and challenge mainstream values.

5. Question Material Accumulation

Reflect on whether material accumulation is truly the path to happiness and well-being, as early experiences in a countercultural community suggested it was not.

6. Critique Mainstream Values

Cultivate the ability to step back and critically question mainstream societal norms and material possessions to recognize alternative values and ways of living beyond what society typically promotes.

7. Seek Teacher & Community

Actively seek out a spiritual teacher and a supportive community to find a meaningful way of living, particularly when feeling adrift from conventional societal norms.

8. Integrate Wisdom with Meditations

Subscribe to danharris.com to access bespoke guided meditations that accompany full-length podcast episodes on Monday and Wednesday, helping to integrate wisdom from conversations into your neurons in an abiding way.

9. Meditate to Expand Heart

Engage in meditation with the intention of expanding your heart and releasing worries and excessive thinking, allowing you to connect with an inherent sense of goodness.

10. Resist Instant Gratification

Consciously resist the impulse to feed into desires for things to be ‘faster, simpler, easier’ when these desires contribute to exploitation by the attention economy.

11. Embrace Downward Mobility

Consider embracing ‘downward mobility’ by prioritizing spiritual family and community over material gain and status, as this can lead to a profound sense of meaning and belonging.

12. Practice Voluntary Financial Simplicity

Adopt voluntary financial simplicity by minimizing personal income and sharing resources, ensuring basic needs are met collectively, which fosters community and reduces focus on material accumulation.

13. Share Resources in Community

Live in closer connection with others to enable borrowing and sharing of resources, which reduces the need for individual ownership and simplifies life.

14. Establish Contemplation Center

Envision and work towards establishing a center for engaged contemplation, integrating meditation, prayer, and responsiveness to the world’s needs, to foster a shared life of deep practice.

15. Develop Communal Needs Awareness

Cultivate the ability to be in tune with the collective needs of a group and effectively communicate them to leadership, fostering collective well-being and effective group functioning.

16. Share Mealtime Reflections

Start communal meals with a song and a reflection question, inviting everyone to share their responses, which fosters connection, active listening, and a sense of being valued.

17. Meditate on Diverse Topics

Explore and practice meditations on a wide range of topics, such as strong emotions, stress, decision-making fear, and open awareness, to expand your practice and address various aspects of well-being.

18. Undertake Wilderness Solitude

Engage in challenging, solitary wilderness experiences, such as a 24-hour vigil alone in nature, to foster profound learning and self-discovery.

19. Limit Accumulation Through Mobility

Reduce the accumulation of possessions by consciously limiting personal living space and increasing mobility, as frequent moves make it difficult to gather many belongings.

20. Attend Live Meditation & Q&A

For paid subscribers, join Dan Harris live on Substack on Tuesday, August 5th at 3:30 PM Eastern for a guided meditation and Q&A session.

21. Access Sunday Bonus Content

Listen to the main podcast feed on Sundays for bonus content from Kyra Jewell, including sneak peeks of subscriber-only meditations and a frequently asked questions segment.