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Amy Cuddy

Mar 27, 2016 55m 27s 14 insights
<p>Amy Cuddy has created a bonafide sensation in the world of happiness and well-being. A social psychologist at Harvard Business School and a New York Times best-selling author, Cuddy gave a TED Talk that has been viewed millions of times about how to make yourself look, feel and act more powerful, through something she calls "power poses."</p>
Actionable Insights

1. Fake It Until You Become It

Adopt powerful behaviors and mindsets not just to get through a situation, but with the intention of becoming a more confident, open, and authentic version of yourself, as feeling powerful activates the brain’s approach system.

2. Power Pose Before Stress

Hold an expansive, powerful posture (like a superhero or victory pose) for one to two minutes before a stressful situation to go from feeling powerless to being more confident and effective.

3. Maintain Upright Posture

Sit upright and hold your shoulders back to improve your mood, reduce depression symptoms, and enhance memory for positive events and traits.

4. Practice Deep, Slow Breathing

Breathe deeply and slowly to signal safety to your vagus nerve, activating a ‘rest and digest’ response that promotes calmness.

5. Unlock Existing Competence

Use body-mind interventions like power posing to unlock your existing competence and knowledge when fear or self-doubt prevents you from performing at your best.

6. Practice Power Poses Privately

Perform expansive and open power poses in private locations (e.g., office, bathroom stall) before stressful situations to avoid feeling threatened or anxious.

7. Power Poses for Self-Advocacy

Adopt powerful postures before challenging social interactions, like doctor’s appointments, to gain courage to ask questions and demand information.

8. Adjust Meditation Expectations

Do not expect to feel a certain way during meditation; instead, aim to feel whatever you are feeling clearly and make a note of it to avoid self-doubt and comparison.

9. Practice Walking Meditation

If sitting meditation is difficult, try formal walking meditation by slowly moving across a room, focusing on every sensation of movement, and gently returning attention when distracted.

10. Accept and Acknowledge Emotions

Practice acknowledging and accepting your emotions without judgment, which is a fundamental aspect of mindfulness and can lead to greater peace.

11. Force a Smile for Mood

Force or fake a smile, as this nonverbal expression can, on average, improve your mood due to facial feedback.

12. Focus on Others to Counter Imposter

When feeling like an imposter or fearing disappointment, shift your focus to the other person, engaging with their stories and finding them interesting, to alleviate self-consciousness.

13. Avoid Self-Aggrandizing Affirmations

Do not use self-aggrandizing self-affirmations (e.g., ‘I’m good enough’) especially when in acute self-doubt, as they can backfire and increase feelings of being a liar.

14. Seek Incremental Improvements

Focus on doing small, incremental things to feel a little bit better over time, as these can lead to significant positive changes without being a cure-all.