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Alan Cumming, Actor, Author, Activist

Sep 21, 2016 35m 3s 12 insights
Alan Cumming is an award-winning actor on the Broadway stage and on-screen, a New York Times best-selling author, director, comedian and activist. He's best known for his roles in Broadway's "Cabaret," TV's "The Good Wife" and as Nightcrawler in "X-Men 2." During the interview with Dan Harris, Cumming talks about his meditation practice and his new book, "You Gotta Get Bigger Dreams: My Life in Stories and Pictures," out this month.
Actionable Insights

1. Respond, Don’t React

Take a step back before acting or replying, especially to emails, to consider the best approach and make a qualified, studied decision. This helps avoid impulsive actions and fosters more thoughtful engagement.

2. Practice Kindness Always

Approach every situation, even challenging ones or interactions with difficult people, with kindness and dignity, as it costs nothing to be nice. This method can lead to better outcomes by countering expectations of aggression and reminding others that kindness is possible.

3. Reject Shame Consciously

Make a conscious decision to not allow shame into your life, telling yourself ‘I’m good enough, I’m fine, it wasn’t me, and I’m going to be okay.’ This helps you move forward and prevents past baggage from dictating your present or future.

4. Embrace Routine for Habits

Strive for routine and consistent patterns in your daily life to better maintain habits like meditation. A predictable schedule, such as regular work and meal times, makes it easier to integrate and stick with practices.

5. Initiate Meditation Independently

Start meditating by simply closing your eyes and making an executive decision to go inside and block everything out for a while when feeling stressed or annoyed. This helps in realizing the benefit of quiet time and inner focus.

6. Formalize Your Meditation Practice

Establish a more formal meditation practice by sitting on a low chair with hands on knees, focusing on your breathing, and feeling the breath coming in and going out. This helps establish a consistent practice beyond just crisis moments.

7. Meditation: Training or Mesmerizing

View meditation as a form of training or mesmerizing yourself into a beneficial pattern, similar to physical training or vocal practice. This perspective helps in understanding that consistent effort improves the skill over time.

8. Enjoy the Journey, Not Goals

Focus on enjoying the present moment and the journey of life rather than solely striving for achievements and end goals. This approach helps prevent missing out on the current experience by constantly looking ahead.

9. Craft Your Negotiated Life

Craft a life that balances various demands and desires, viewing it as a negotiation to achieve your desired outcomes. Utilize the benefits of one area (e.g., mainstream work) to support other passions (e.g., obscure artistic projects).

10. Swim for Meditative Quiet

Engage in swimming as a meditative activity to find quiet time for reflection and thinking. The anonymity often found in a swimming pool can enhance this experience, allowing for a mental break.

11. Engage with Global Issues

Engage directly with global issues that concern you, such as the refugee crisis, by seeking firsthand experience or supporting organizations like the UNHCR. This helps to understand the root causes and combat rhetoric of hatred and fear.

12. Avoid “Hashtag Blessed” Language

Avoid using phrases like ‘hashtag blessed’ as they can be a lazy way to avoid analyzing your circumstances and often serve as a humble brag. Instead, be more thoughtful and genuine in expressing gratitude or describing your experiences.