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A New Way to Think About Your Time | Ashley Whillans

Jan 25, 2021 1h 14m 24 insights
For many of us, in this pandemic, our relationship to time has become particularly fraught. You may be noticing that, with no limits on your work time, you are going into overdrive and feeling more crazed than ever. Or you may be feeling like you have too much time and are bored out of your mind. Or you may be feeling both. My guest, Ashley Whillans, is an Assistant Professor at Harvard Business School and author of the book Time Smart. She was recommended to us by a former guest, Laurie Santos, a professor from Yale and host of The Happiness Lab podcast. Ashley has a radical approach to managing your time -- or taking your time, to put a new spin on an old cliche. Her goal is to get you from a state of "time poverty" to "time affluence." In this conversation, we talk about: how to do a time audit; funding time, finding time, and reframing time; the surprising extent to which prioritizing time over money predicts happiness -- and what to do if you usually do the opposite; how to handle "time confetti"; and the value of canceling meetings. This is the first of a two-part series we are doing this week on time. On Wednesday, we're going to talk to someone with a rather different approach. Her name is Jenny Odell and she wrote a bestseller called How To Do Nothing. Take a few minutes to help us out by answering a survey about your experience with this podcast! The team here is always looking for ways to improve, and we'd love to hear from all of you, but we'd particularly like to hear from those of you who listen to the podcast and do not use our companion app. Please visit https://www.tenpercent.com/survey to take the survey. Thank you.   Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/ashley-whillans-318
Actionable Insights

1. Prioritize Time Over Money

Consciously choose time over money when possible, as prioritizing time reliably predicts greater happiness, less stress, and better social relationships compared to prioritizing financial gain. This choice influences career decisions and daily trade-offs, leading to more meaningful time allocation.

2. Conduct a Time Audit

Regularly review how you spend your time (e.g., a typical Tuesday) by identifying activities that are meaningful, pleasant, stressful, or mindless. Aim to maximize time on meaningful and pleasant activities while minimizing time spent on unpleasant or stressful ones.

3. Define Your “Big Why”

Articulate your core purpose, goals, and intentions in life, asking yourself what you would do if you had one day remaining. Strive to align your daily time allocation with how you would ideally spend your time, or if it were your last day, to live with greater intentionality.

4. Protect Leisure Time

Schedule and protect your leisure time in your calendar as diligently as you would work appointments, refusing to move it for work deadlines. This deliberate protection of leisure is crucial for overall well-being and happiness, as it is often more important than work projects.

5. Diversify Your Time Portfolio

Allocate your time across activities that are high in meaning (e.g., parenting), high in pleasure (e.g., a massage), and ideally both (e.g., purposeful work or volunteering). Minimize time spent on unpleasant and stressful activities, similar to diversifying financial investments.

6. Fund Time by Outsourcing Tasks

If financially able, spend money to outsource or delegate unpleasant, non-meaningful, or stressful tasks (e.g., household chores, certain work tasks). This frees up your time for more meaningful or enjoyable activities, reducing stress and promoting happiness.

7. Find Time by Substituting Mindless Activities

Identify pockets of time lost to mindless, unproductive activities like excessive technology use (e.g., doom scrolling, constant email checking). Proactively substitute these with more positive, intentional activities such as exercising, socializing, or going outdoors.

8. Reframe Weekends as Vacations

Treat your weekends as special ‘vacation time’ rather than regular leisure, consciously telling yourself they are different. This reframing helps you savor moments more and feel less goal conflict about not working.

9. Practice Savoring and Presence

Actively remind yourself to be present in the moment and savor everyday experiences, especially social interactions with loved ones. This practice enhances satisfaction and contributes to a feeling of time affluence.

10. Create a Time Affluence To-Do List

Maintain a list of enjoyable, meaningful, or socially connected activities to capitalize on unexpected free time, such as a canceled meeting. Instead of defaulting to work or mindless scrolling, use these moments for activities that nourish you psychologically.

11. Use Physical Reminders

Place physical reminders in your environment (e.g., a tattoo, a note) to keep your core values, intentions, and the preciousness of time top of mind. This helps you center yourself and align daily actions with your ‘big why’ despite demanding work or technology distractions.

12. Disrupt Morning Habits

Break the habit of immediately engaging with work (e.g., checking email) upon waking. Instead, take 30 minutes before going to your desk to be deliberate and mindful, setting intentions for the day to foster greater intentionality and focus.

13. Proactively Block Time for Goals

Schedule uninterrupted blocks of time (e.g., two hours, twice a week) in your calendar for important goals, treating them as non-negotiable as critical meetings. This practice significantly reduces burnout and stress by protecting focus time.

14. Plan Proactive Time Blocks

Dedicate a 30-minute planning block each week before your proactive work blocks to outline specific tasks for those focused periods. This ensures accountability and maximizes productivity by preventing you from wondering what to do when the time arrives.

15. Structure Tasks for Progress

Begin challenging work sessions with an easy, low-level task (e.g., editing, organizing) to build a sense of competence and progress. This approach helps get the juices flowing and eases you into more substantial and difficult work.

16. Bundle Activities to Find Time

Combine an activity you enjoy (e.g., listening to music or a podcast) with a less enjoyable but necessary task (e.g., errands, exercise). This ‘bundling’ makes the latter more pleasant and effectively helps you find more time for preferred activities.

17. Reframe Unpleasant Work Tasks

For unavoidable, unpleasant work tasks, reframe them by consciously recognizing their connection to broader goals or how they benefit colleagues. Simply seeing this connection can transform negative experiences at work into something more positive.

18. Cancel Unnecessary Meetings

Don’t hesitate to cancel meetings if there’s no clear agenda or purpose, as the recipient is often happier than you’d expect. This frees up valuable time for both parties, reducing unnecessary obligations.

19. Build Breaks & Boundaries (WFH)

Deliberately schedule breaks, boundaries, and transitions (e.g., virtual commutes, no meetings during certain hours) into your workday, especially when working from home. This mitigates time stress and goal conflict caused by blurred work-life lines in a virtual environment.

20. Shorten Meetings for Interaction (WFH)

As an employer or team leader, shorten meetings and create deliberate buffer time before or after them to allow for spontaneous, unscripted social interactions among colleagues. This fosters connection without adding formal social obligations to overwhelmed schedules.

21. Encourage Random Social Chats (WFH)

Implement or participate in ‘random coffee chats’ programs (e.g., Donut through Slack) that randomly pair colleagues for casual online conversations. This mirrors spontaneous hallway interactions, fostering joy, creativity, and informal mentorship missing in virtual environments.

22. Take Short, Frequent Vacations

Prioritize taking short, frequent vacations (e.g., three to five days) rather than fewer long ones. Research suggests shorter breaks can be more relaxing and effective for recharging without the overwhelming backlog of work upon return.

23. Engage in Productive Activities (Underemployment)

If underemployed or unemployed, actively seek out and engage in productive activities or acts of service that contribute positively to society or help others. This can boost feelings of competence, satisfaction, and control over your time, even if financially constrained.

24. Move Work to the Periphery

Consciously shift work, productivity, and economic success from the absolute center of your life to a more peripheral role. This challenges societal norms that reward constant availability, fostering greater individual and societal happiness and better navigation of economic challenges.