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A Buddhist Compass To Direct You Toward Happiness | Beth Upton

Jul 16, 2025 1h 1m 15 insights
<p dir="ltr">The happiness recipe from ancient Buddhist psychology.</p> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://bethupton.com/">Beth Upton</a> has been teaching meditation since 2014. Before that she spent ten years as a Buddhist nun, five of them in Burma under the guidance of Pa Auk Sayadaw. She currently leads the <a href="http://www.sanditthika.org/">Sanditthika Meditation Community</a>.</p> <p dir="ltr">In this episode we talk about:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr">The Buddhist Abhidhamma, which Beth calls "particle physics for the mind"  </li> <li dir="ltr">Why she's interested in the broader teaching of Kusala (happy mind states)</li> <li dir="ltr">Practical ways to design our lives to get more Kusala</li> <li dir="ltr">The beautiful qualities of mind that all co-arise in a moment of Kusala </li> <li dir="ltr">How we get tripped up in the realm of the "unwholesome"</li> <li dir="ltr">How Beth navigates Kusala and Akusala in her day to day life<strong><br /></strong></li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Related Episodes:</p> <ul> <li dir="ltr"> <p dir="ltr"><a href="https://www.danharris.com/p/the-profound-upsides-of-mortality-f71?utm_source=publication-search"> The Profound Upsides of Mortality | Nikki Mirghafori, PhD</a></p> </li> </ul> <p dir="ltr">Join Dan's online community <a href="http://www.danharris.com">here</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Follow Dan on social: <a href="https://bit.ly/3tGigG5">Instagram</a>, <a href="https://bit.ly/3FOA84J">TikTok</a></p> <p dir="ltr">Subscribe to our <a href="https://bit.ly/3FybRzD">YouTube Channel</a></p> <p dir="ltr">To advertise on the show, contact sales@advertisecast.com or visit <a href="https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris">https://advertising.libsyn.com/10HappierwithDanHarris</a></p> <p> </p>
Actionable Insights

1. Cultivate Kusala for Happiness

Actively cultivate Kusala (skillful, beneficial, wholesome mind states) to increase happiness, reduce suffering (e.g., depression, anxiety), and improve relationships, as it is the universal ‘medicine’ for well-being.

2. Activate All Kusala Qualities

Focus on cultivating any single Kusala quality (e.g., faith, mindfulness, generosity, acceptance, morality, tranquility, uprightness) to automatically activate all other Kusala qualities simultaneously, as they always co-arise.

3. Integrate Kusala into Autopilot

Consciously bring Kusala qualities (e.g., mindfulness, loving-kindness, gratitude, service) to routine, autopilot activities like chores, commuting, or emails, to compound positive habits over time.

4. Transform Downtime with Kusala

During unproductive downtime (e.g., scrolling on your phone), intentionally engage in Kusala practices like gratitude, planning acts of generosity for others, or meditation, instead of defaulting to distraction.

5. Bring Kusala to Engaging Tasks

For unavoidable, actively engaging tasks (e.g., work, parenting), consciously choose and bring a specific Kusala quality (e.g., service, patience, loving-kindness, tranquility) to the activity.

6. Steer Away from Draining Activities

Identify activities that consistently drain your Kusala (i.e., you hate doing them and find it impossible to do them with a wholesome mind) and gradually steer your life away from having to engage in them.

7. Practice Renunciation for Happiness

Recognize that unwholesome actions (akusala) provide coarse, temporary pleasures driven by attachment to self; practice renunciation (non-addiction) by giving up these small pleasures to access a larger, more refined happiness.

8. Shift Well-being Source

Re-root your sense of well-being from fleeting bodily pleasures to the quality of attention and Kusala mind states you bring to any experience, whether pleasurable or painful.

9. Mindful Consumption for Kusala

When experiencing sense pleasures like eating, practice mindfulness to observe the impermanence of the pleasure and any underlying suffering, thereby transforming the experience into a Kusala moment and cultivating ‘disenchantment’.

10. Acknowledge All Arising Thoughts

In meditation, acknowledge and work with all arising thoughts, emotions, and sensations (e.g., hunger, irritation, sadness, habits of mind) rather than trying to suppress or bulldoze them.

11. Approach Teachings with Investigation

Approach spiritual or meditative teachings with an attitude of ‘come and see’ (ehipassika), inviting investigation rather than requiring blind belief, especially for advanced practices.

12. Integrate Wisdom through Engagement

Re-engage with challenging or previously avoided aspects of life to apply and integrate wisdom, allowing different parts of yourself to ‘come out to play’ for deeper practice.

13. Deepen Non-Self Understanding

Utilize advanced practices like discerning past lives to deepen your understanding of non-self, recognizing all experiences as momentary causal processes rather than reifying a fixed identity.

14. Commit to Deep Practice

When impressed by the potential of a practice or teaching, commit to staying with it and learning deeply until you have mastered what is being taught.

15. Orient Towards Internal Quality

Shift your fundamental orientation towards improving your quality of life by focusing on internal work and what’s happening on the inside, rather than seeking happiness solely from external factors.