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A Buddhist Approach to Money Worries | Ethan Nichtern

Apr 27, 2020 1h 11m 21 insights
No matter what your economic situation is, you have likely experienced some money worries during this pandemic. I know I have- and I say that as someone who is in an extremely fortunate position. So many people have lost businesses, lost jobs, had salaries cut- or we are worried about one of these things happening to us. Given the massive insecurity and uncertainty abroad in the land, we wanted to explore a Buddhist approach to financial concerns. It's not like the Buddha never said anything on this matter. He wasn't expecting all meditators to live in caves with shaved heads. There's a ton of useful stuff in Buddhism on the issue of money, and there are a lot of meditative techniques for handling our financial anxieties. So we brought on a great Buddhist teacher by the name of Ethan Nichtern. He's been on the show before. He has written a few books, including one called The Road Home. He also hosts a podcast by the same name. We had a great chat, and I'm excited to bring it to you. Free App access for Health Care Workers: https://tenpercent.com/care Where to find Ethan Nichtern online: Website: https://www.ethannichtern.com/ Social Media: Twitter: Ethan Nichtern (@ethannichtern) / https://twitter.com/ethannichtern Facebook: Ethan Nichtern / https://www.facebook.com/EthanNichtern/ Book Mentioned: The Dharma of the Princess Bride, by Ethan Nichtern / https://www.amazon.com/Dharma-Princess-Bride-Buddhism-Relationships/dp/0865477760 Other Resources Mentioned: Sharon Salzberg / https://www.sharonsalzberg.com/ Bodhisattva / https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bodhisattva The Eight Worldly Winds / https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Outline_of_Buddhism#Eight_Worldly_Conditions Joseph Goldstein / https://10percenthappier.app.link/TEXKruciQ5 Buddha's Brain, by Rick Hanson / https://www.rickhanson.net/books/buddhas-brain/ The Road Home podcast / https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-road-home-with-ethan-nichtern/id1392813061 Why Buddhism is True by Robert Wright / https://www.amazon.com/Why-Buddhism-True-Philosophy-Enlightenment/dp/1439195455 Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives by Adam Grant / https://www.amazon.com/Give-Take-Helping-Others-Success/dp/0143124986 Invisible Hands / https://www.invisiblehandsdeliver.com/ Additional Resources: Ten Percent Happier Live: https://tenpercent.com/live Coronavirus Sanity Guide: https://www.tenpercent.com/coronavirussanityguide Full Shownotes: https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/ethan-nichtern-242
Actionable Insights

1. Spot Mind States on Money

Identify and acknowledge the specific mental states, such as fear and anxiety, that arise when contemplating or dealing with financial matters. This is the initial step in a Buddhist approach to facing financial concerns and working with one’s mind for liberation from suffering.

2. Practice Generosity (Dana)

Engage in acts of generosity, even small ones like giving away loose change or making a modest donation, to others who may be in worse situations. This practice helps liberate the mind from fear and the tendency to cling to resources, leading to better decision-making and a sense of equanimity.

3. Ask for and Receive Help

Be willing to both ask for and receive support, whether it’s a sympathetic ear, practical assistance, or financial aid, recognizing that generosity is a two-way street. This flexibility in giving and receiving is essential for an open mind and is considered part of awakening.

4. Engage with Relative Reality

Pay close attention to and engage with the practical, ’nuts and bolts’ aspects of daily life, including financial realities like debt, rather than using spiritual concepts to bypass them. A precise examination of relative phenomena is necessary to truly understand ultimate truths and function effectively.

5. Sit with Uncertainty Mindfully

In meditation, repeatedly acknowledge and become familiar with the experience of ’not knowing’ or uncertainty, noting that you are still breathing and aware. This practice helps you navigate uncertainty from a place of sanity, enabling better decisions and kinder actions, rather than unbridled fear.

6. Mindful Uncertainty Narration

Observe and be aware of how you narrate uncertainty, avoiding both extreme negativity (e.g., ‘I’m screwed’) and overly positive denial (e.g., ‘It’s all going to be great’). This awareness creates a space to consciously choose what qualities to cultivate instead of being swept away by unexamined narratives.

7. Observe Eight Worldly Winds

Pay attention to how your mind is constantly pulled back and forth by the ’eight worldly winds’ – hope for pleasure, gain, praise, and fame, and fear of pain, loss, blame, and shame. Noticing these patterns helps cultivate equanimity and the ability to ‘hold your seat’ amidst life’s ups and downs.

8. Practice ‘May I Be Safe’

Begin loving kindness meditation by focusing on the phrase ‘May I be safe,’ and extend it to others (‘May you be safe’). This practice directly addresses the nervous system’s inherent fear for security and helps establish a foundational sense of safety and well-being.

9. Practice ‘Let Be’

Instead of trying to ’let go’ of difficult emotions or self-judgment, practice ’letting be’ by simply noticing the experience (e.g., tightness, fear) without rejection or adding further narration. This allows for softening and easing the grip of clinging and self-laceration, fostering a more accepting approach.

10. Cultivate Compassion (Karuna Practice)

Engage in Karuna (compassion) practice by envisioning people who are truly suffering and cultivating the wish for them to be free from suffering, doing this daily or multiple times a day. This helps to shift focus away from self-centered fears and cultivate a genuine desire to be useful to others.

11. Alleviate Shame of Loss

When experiencing financial or other losses, recognize that many factors are impersonal and beyond individual control, especially during widespread events like a pandemic. This perspective can alleviate feelings of shame, as it acknowledges that loss is not always due to personal fault but often systemic or external forces.

12. Mindful Budgeting & Discernment

Use mindfulness to discern and prioritize spending by creating a budget, which provides a sense of grounding and clarifies available resources. This allows you to make conscious choices about allocating energy and resources based on what is truly valuable and available.

13. Simplify Life, Help Others

Simplify your lifestyle by cutting back on non-necessities and use any surplus resources to help family or others in your community. This strategy is considered a good Buddhist practice, benefiting both oneself and others during times of scarcity and uncertainty.

14. Practice Gratitude

Consciously practice gratitude and ’take in the good’ by actively noticing positive aspects, relationships, and the preciousness of life. This helps to counteract the natural human bias towards negativity and fosters a more awake and compassionate way of living.

15. Contemplate Right Livelihood

Reflect on your work and how you earn a living, ensuring it doesn’t contribute to harm in the world and allows your mind to remain mindful, compassionate, and capable of loving kindness. The focus is on ‘how’ you do your work, not just ‘what’ you do.

16. Contemplate Control

Regularly reflect on what aspects of your situation are a direct result of your own actions and what is truly beyond your control. This practice helps to gain clarity, take responsibility where appropriate, and release self-blame for things that are impersonal.

17. Invoke Support in Meditation

Begin meditation sessions by mentally invoking benefactors, heroes, mentors, or spiritual figures, imagining them offering support. This technique cultivates a sense of support, reduces feelings of isolation and anxiety, and prepares the mind to be open to receiving help in daily life.

18. Perform Acts of Kindness

Engage in small acts of kindness towards others. This can help to ’turn the volume down’ on inner voices of insufficiency and impoverishment.

19. Cultivate Curiosity

Approach uncertainty with a sense of curiosity, asking ‘isn’t this fascinating not to know what’s going to happen next?’ This can open up opportunities for creativity and allow you to consciously cultivate positive qualities and contribute to a more caring world.

20. Avoid Spiritual Bypassing

Do not use spiritual concepts like ’emptiness’ to avoid dealing with practical realities like debt or unopened bills. True understanding comes from a close and precise examination of relative phenomena, not by ignoring them.

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