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5 Ways To Get Over Yourself | Pascal Auclair

Jun 1, 2022 1h 11m 18 insights
<p>The phrase, "Get over yourself" is often used in a flippant way, but it's actually speaking to a deep human need to get out of our heads and off our own backs. At a fundamental level, this is what Buddhism is all about— seeing through the illusion of the self, which can be the source of so much of our suffering. </p> <p><br /></p> <p>In this episode guest Pascal Auclair talks about how we can unlock this suffering through the use of a foundational Buddhist list called the five aggregates. </p> <p><br /></p> <p>Pascal Auclair has been immersed in Buddhist practice and study since 1997. He has been mentored by <a href="https://www.dharma.org/teacher/joseph-goldstein/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Joseph Goldstein</a> and <a href="https://jackkornfield.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Jack Kornfield</a> at the <a href="https://www.dharma.org/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Insight Meditation Society (IMS)</a> in Massachusetts and <a href="https://www.spiritrock.org/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Spirit Rock Meditation Center</a> in California, where he is now enjoying teaching retreats. Pascal teaches in North America and in Europe. He is a co-founder of <a href="https://www.truenorthinsight.org/index.php/en/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">True North Insight</a> and one of their guiding teachers.</p> <p><br /></p> <p>In this episode we talk about: </p> <p><br /></p> <ul> <li>How the five aggregates got Auclair hooked on Buddhist practice and philosophy</li> <li>The five aggregates as a way to work with difficulty</li> <li>Living with the non-negotiable prospect of dying</li> <li>Paying attention to pleasant, unpleasant and neutral feeling tone</li> <li>Meditation training as a way to understand that experiences are conditional</li> </ul> <p><br /></p> <p><br /></p> <p><strong>Full Shownotes:</strong> <a href="https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://www.tenpercent.com/podcast-episode/</a>pascal-auclair-459</p>
Actionable Insights

1. See Through Illusion of Self

Recognize that the self is an illusion and the source of much suffering, and engage in practices like the Five Aggregates to see through this illusion and reduce suffering.

2. Utilize Five Aggregates Framework

Employ the Five Aggregates (form, feeling, perception, mental formations, consciousness) as a foundational Buddhist framework to understand how suffering arises in each aspect of experience and to work with any difficult situation in your life.

3. Connect ‘No Self’ to Heart

Integrate the conceptual understanding of ’no self’ with heart-centered practices, as this liberation can make joy, tenderness, compassion, equanimity, and healing more accessible and vibrant.

4. Clear Away Grasping Energy

Actively practice clearing away grasping energy and identification with phenomena, which creates space for positive qualities like joy, compassion, and equanimity to naturally arise.

5. Observe Experience Impersonally

Practice viewing all experiences—sensations, emotions, thoughts, intentions, and consciousness—through the lens of the Five Aggregates, rather than through a personal ‘I,’ to release the mind from identification, fusion, and appropriation.

6. Renounce Mental Proliferation

In meditation and daily life, practice returning to immediate experience (e.g., body, sitting, breathing) by renouncing the tendency to embellish and build elaborate mental stories that trap you in conceptual worlds.

7. Investigate Impermanence Constantly

Consistently notice the unreliable, unstable, intermittent, and flickering nature of all phenomena, including your body, mind states, and possessions, to gradually get used to the process of losing things and to cultivate equanimity.

8. Shift Body Perception

In meditation, observe the body as a fluid field of impersonal sensations (e.g., tingling, pressure, expansions, contractions) rather than rigidly identifying it as ‘my body’ or ‘I am the body,’ to understand its conditional nature.

9. Hold Ownership Fluidly

Approach ownership of material things and relationships with nuance, recognizing that they are conditionally ‘yours’ but not absolutely, to reduce grasping and clinging and navigate change more smoothly.

10. Observe Feeling Tones

Pay close attention to the pleasant, unpleasant, and neutral feeling tones that accompany every experience (e.g., sights, sounds, thoughts), noticing how they constantly arise and vanish, revealing their unstable nature.

11. Transform Unpleasant Experiences

When unpleasant experiences arise, pay close attention and investigate how they can be an opportunity to cultivate positive qualities like calm, integrity, patience, care, honesty, healing, stability, compassion, or humor, rather than reacting with irritation or aversion.

12. Recognize Perception’s Subjectivity

Understand that your perceptions and interpretations of reality (e.g., people, future, past) are subjective ‘mirages’ colored by past experiences and conditioning, not objective facts, to avoid unnecessary reactions and suffering.

13. Uncouple Thoughts from Reality

Realize that your thoughts about something (e.g., your mother, a situation, the future) are not the thing itself, which is a fundamental step towards liberation from suffering caused by mental projections.

14. Foster Understanding for Others

When encountering people with different views (e.g., on COVID, vaccines, masks), remember that their perceptions are shaped by their unique experiences and exposures, promoting empathy and reducing conflict.

15. Identify Mental Constructions

Recognize that elaborate mental stories, plans, and even intentions are ‘constructions of the mind’ (mental formations) that arise from conditions, rather than originating from a solid, personal ‘I’ or being factual reality.

16. View Emotions Impersonally

See emotions (e.g., anger, fear, pride, joy) as impersonal phenomena ‘of the public domain’ that arise and pass, rather than ‘your’ personal property, allowing them to be liberated without personal attachment.

17. Question the Observer

Develop a quiet and stable mind, then investigate the subtle sense of ‘I’ by asking ‘Who is hearing? Who is thinking? Who is sitting?’ and observing the impersonal nature of knowing without trying to get rid of it.

18. Experiment with Impersonal Language

Practice removing the pronoun ‘I’ from your internal language (e.g., saying ‘hearing is happening,’ ‘fear is known,’ ‘chopping carrots is happening’) to observe how this shifts your experience and perception of a solid self.